Yesterday was 'National Coming Out Day'. A day that was made in order to make the coming-out process somewhat easier, or maybe faster for some. As a society we seem to be more initiative and willing to do things when there's a day dedicated to it. We tell more people we love them on Valentine and buy more gifts when it's Christmas.
Coming Out Day in my eyes helps more people take a step forward and open up to their loved ones. It is important as today, more than any other time, it seems like people are being outed forcefully, even brutally! Social Networks and apps like 'secret' became a place where cowered people use one's personal life as a weapon against them. People would take advantage of a piece of very intimate, personal information, as one's sexual orientation and use it to scare them, to threaten them, to control them!
Even a person who is secure with their sexuality but keeps it away from certain people, can all of a sudden feel as if there's something wrong with him being who is, when that very core of their life is used as something they should be afraid of, or something that can potentially hurt them.
I do not use 'secret' or any other app like that. You won't find me there. Heck, some of you might be surprised to know, but I don't even own a smart-phone.
Yet I would like to start a conversation with you all, and ask what do think about a person who uses someone else's sexuality as a way to threaten them? What do you feel about a gay guy, who is in the closet, and yet another gay person who knows about him, is threatening to out him publicly if they don't do what they ask? And what if the bully have actually gone through and done that, and now that other guy or girl who was once in the closet for their own personal reasons have had their life shattered? Their family members disown them? Having to feel as if they were robbed out of the opportunity to come out on their own terms, in their own time?
Do you think the person who inflicted this trauma upon someone else should be treated as a criminal? Do you think that person should be treated as someone who committed a hate crime? Or a blackmail?
Many people are talking about the double standard of some public figures who go out against the LGBT community, yet are gay themselves. I wonder how would you feel if you knew that a person who threatens a closeted guy with public outing if he won't surrender the threats, literally using one's sexuality as a weapon against them - is actually gay themselves and is a very outspoken, so-called 'fighter' for the LGBT community?!
Do you think that kind of person should be 'outed' and exposed publicly for his violent actions?!
Would love to hear your thoughts and see how we can all share and spread some more love and acceptance instead of fear and hatred.